At Heart Matters, your Brain Matters.
Many are not aware that the brain can be trained back in to a healthy state. This is not by a revolutionary new therapy. Its a tool based on solid science that has been around for over 50 years. However, technology has changed and Heart Matters uses the most advanced equipment, software, and assessments available to bring care to you and your brain. If you want to know more check out the Neurofeedback tab on this page or click learn more…
When Your Heart Has Been Shamed…Living With Codependence
Codependence is one of those terms that is used freely, but without a unified concrete meaning shared by those using the word. At Heart Matters Counseling, we use the term as a way of describing a state of personal and interpersonal discomfort marked by a person’s inability to be in healthy relationships on three levels: 1. Spiritually (with a Higher Power), 2. Intrapersonally (with oneself), and 3. Interpersonally ( with others). The first two of these relational levels are foundational to the function of the third and are often overlooked as the primary issues to be addressed as problems arise in the relationships of couples, families and friends. Learn more…
WHAT IS EMDR?
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It is a revolutionary new method of doing psychotherapy. It has helped millions of people from all ages, backgrounds, and cultures resolve psychological distress.
HOW WAS EMDR DEVELOPED?
Dr. Francine Shapiro, while treating Vietnam veterans in the late 80′s, discovered that the use eye movements can help lessen the intensity of disturbing thoughts. Numerous studies throughout the world have affirmed this phenomenon scientifically and found her theory to be extremely beneficial in treating the effects and symptoms of trauma, including, panic, anxiety, hopelessness, toxic shame, and many others recurrent problems. EMDR has developed and advanced through the help of many professionals all over the world. Learn More…
Partners of Sex Addicts
Does Your Heart Matter Too? Being the Partner of a Sex Addict…
Often it is the wife of the sex addict who recognizes his addiction first, but in her codependence she has learned not to believe in her perceptions about intimacy in their relationship. Often she has learned to ignore what she needs and wants in the relationship. It is like the proverbial story of the frog who is placed on the stove in cold water. As the water begins to heat up, the frog adapts to the temperature until it is boiled to death. Sex addicts are experts in deception and blame shifting. The shifts in relationship are often subtle, but over time begin to kill the relationship and the heart of their spouse. Learn more…
When Your Heart Doesn’t Matter… The Tragedy of Sexual Addiction
Sex addiction can be broadly divided into two major categories:
1. An addiction to disconnected sexual experiences with another person through affairs, prostitution, massage parlors etc. and,
2. An addiction to pornography in which a person masturbates to pornographic images or fantasies about pornographic images.
Sex addiction is a way some people compulsively medicate their feelings or life’s stresses to the degree that their sexual behavior becomes their major coping mechanism. Learn more…